Guys, let’s help each other. Let’s share the things that work and don’t work so all of us can do a better job out there in the dating world. The more you share with us, the more we can help you.
Question for the Guys:
When it comes to dating, if there is ( or was for you married men) anything you want to become better at, what would it be?
Mr. Bachelor, I have to say 1st that this website is a great idea. I’ll spread the word for you!
I myself am very classy/old fashion, you know, a stand up when a lady leaves the table & hold a door open kind of guy, but a lot of times I find that this approach (being myself) doesn’t work or is it perhaps that I’ve just dated the wrong girls? I feel like a 40 year old man in a 25 year old body!
Thomas – Thank you for your comments and for spreading the word.
I also understand your situation. Older women who were taught how men should treat a lady would appreciate your traditional manners. Younger women perhaps not so much. However, the important thing is to be yourself, whether a woman appreciates it or not. Setting standards and sticking with them is always a good thing.
Now referring to whether it “works,” that’s another matter. It won’t go against you, but there’s much more that needs to happen before anything “works.” One thing that works in the long run is being yourself. That doesn’t mean you can’t focus on something about you that you can change or improve upon, like listening better, smiling more, exhibiting a sense of humor, etc.
There’s lots of things that need to add up so the total combination “works.” But that combination needs to be truly you and sincere, or it won’t last long into the relationship and she’ll wonder what happened to the guy she first met.
You have a solid base to move forward from – be yourself and a gentleman, and you’ll be fine. You’re also ahead of the game if you are 40 and have a body of a 25-year old. Someone out there will be attracted to your youthful appearance, appreciate your manners, and like you for being you. Enjoy the search.